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Enculturation – learning our native culture(s) in childhood
Acculturation – adapting to another culture
Culture shock – the stress associated with acculturation

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Hymen reconstruction debacle grips France

Gynecologists report that in the past few years, more Muslim women are asking for certificates of virginity to provide proof to others. That in turn has created a demand among cosmetic surgeons for hymen replacements, which, if done properly, they say, will not be detected and will produce tell-tale vaginal bleeding on the wedding night. The service is widely advertised on the Internet; medical tourism packages are available to countries like Tunisia where it is less expensive.
And even more baffling...
The groom, an engineer, applied for an annulment because his bride, a student nurse, had lied to him about her virginity. Under the French civil code, an annulment can be granted “if there was a mistake about the person or the essential qualities of the person”. The judge declared the marriage void since it was “founded on a lie about her virginity”, which the bride acknowledged, and this constituted an “essential quality” in the eyes of both parties. The bride did not contest the annulment.
1) Women should have the right to pay for whatever ridiculous surgeries they want
2) Women should not be pressured into having ridiculous surgeries
3) Since it's well-established that all sorts of things can lead to the hymen rupturing, why is the presumption that a hymen-less woman isn't a virgin?
4) What's so great about virginity, anyway? Thanks to birth control and paternity tests, men don't have to worry so much about being duped into raising kids who aren't their own. And fears of STDs go both ways. If anything women should be more concerned, given the number of STIs that don't have any symptoms in men but can really mess up a woman's reproductive system.
5) In the case of the woman whose fiance's conservative Moroccan family wants their family friend to examine her, isn't that a form of assault? You better believe that no one looks at my lady parts without a good medical or romantic reason. And there's no way I'd marry anyone who tells me otherwise.
6) If you can't trust a woman to tell you the truth about her virginity and need so much proof, how can you trust her to be your wife? Or, why marry someone you don't trust?
7) Thats a LOT of money to pay for something whose sole purpose is to be examined once or twice and then broken. Kind of like a Jewish bride buying a fine crystal glass just to have the groom stomp on it.

So what does French public opinion have to say? That the husband in the Lille case was too young (23) to be taken seriously, that his virginity fetish was a throw-back to the Middle Ages (regardless of his religion), and that doctors and judges who go along with this sort of thing are complicit to the oppression of women. I don't disagree with Halimi on any of those points, a priori, but I think there's probably more nuance to be found. I'd love to see articles written from either the husband or the wife's perspective, rather than from the perspective of a detached observer.

4 comments:

Nathalie said...

Slate weighs in at http://www.slate.com/id/2193353/

belmontmedina said...

I'm with William Saletan on this one. Yes, it's stupid, expensive, and demeaning. But, if that's what it takes (barring a paradigm shift) for the affected women to keep from being beaten, murdered, or disowned, let them do it.

Nathalie said...

Right - I do as well. The whole thing is pretty peculiar, from a Western perspective. The French attitude toward religion throws an interesting wrench, too - this is a country that outlaws hijab in any form in schools, governments offices and a number of other places based on the assumption that women who choose to wear hijab only do so because they've been brainwashed into it. I'd love to hear comments from some of the French readers...

Nathalie said...

More on this topic from Judith Warner
http://warner.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/06/12/pure-tyranny/